Lets face it breaking up sucks. If you have ever heard the song “Need You Now” by Lady Antebellum (if you haven’t make a point of checking it out, it’s a great song) you may have sympathized with the characters in the song who are going through a break up and doing things all wrong.

Here are the words in one line of the song: “It’s a quarter after one, I’m all alone and I need you now. Said I wouldn’t call but I lost all control and I need you now.” Don’t be desperate and start dialing.

The other line I find interesting is: “It’s a quarter after one, I’m a little drunk and I need you now.” Drunk dialing is even worse. The other mistake that is often made is texting the ex, and texting and more texting. You become what is called a Text Terrorist.

What should you do to get your ex back?

Ask yourself one thing and be honest to yourself. Do I really want my ex back? Look deep inside to make sure the love for your ex is really there and this is not just a reaction to the loneliness.

So did you answer: Yes I want my ex back! If so there is a process for you to follow.

You Will Not Want To Do What Is Expected

At this time being predictable is the last thing you want to do. Keep your ex guessing and make them work their way back into your good standing. If you keep them on their toes they will keep coming back for more.

How do you avoid doing something that is expected? Break out of that day to day thing you do. Now is the time to spice things up and add some different, fun and fresh activities to your days.

Now Is The Time To Instill Relationship Goals

If a couple is “apart” they can still be responsible and set goals. What’s important when trying to get your ex back is setting goals. They should be set with different degrees of closeness and affection in mind and then commit to achieving those goals.

Here is a list of goals you will want to consider: reaching emotional milestones, making physical changes and being able to control your temper to start with. It will be up to you to choose the type of goals that pertain to your relationship.

Be Accountable For Both The Successes And The Failures

Accountability seems to be something that is in short supply these days. It’s vital to make sure you hold yourself accountable for failing to meet goals. At the same time you need to reward yourself big time for achieving those goals.

The best two motivators are reward and punishment. They can be used as tools. Some rewards that you might choose: a new video game (if that’s your thing), a new hair style (if that’s your thing) or a fun night out with friends. You want to do stuff that assures an active lifestyle. Activity will keep you healthier, you do not want to complicate all that is happening with health issues.

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