There are problem in every couple in the world. It is a fact that you will not come across a couple that does not have some sort of problem in their relationship. If they do not have a problem just yet, they will have one in the near future – if they do not, then there is a problem, because there is a little thing called marriage counseling that says that all couples have problems.

You may feel that this is not true, you may be one of those people who is in a relationship without problems, the only problem is that you are lying to yourself, and the problem either lies with your or the person you are with. What you have to come to terms with is that if you do not have problem on the surface, they are all lying underneath the surface, which means that if you start ot have problems later down the line, they will be huge problems, and they may be uncontrollable.

This is normal, and you cannot say that the person you are with is a liar. You may think that it is a simple thing to be yourself when you are courting, but this is not so, and you can prove it simply be looking at your own actions.

We are all different people when we are being courted or are courting someone. There is always a need to seem better than we are, at least there seems to be that need. No matter how much you tell people to just be themselves, you will find that if they like someone, they will feel like they cannot be themselves, because they do not want to lose this other person.

There is nothing you can do about it, but what you have to realize is that if or when those two people decide to move in together, you will always find that one of the people, if not both of them, do not like what the other person will become. This is a fact, and it has been like this for many years, in all relationships.

Can we say that this is because of a mistake that people make these days, because people tend to move to quickly? Partly, this is true, but we all do it, we are all someone else when we first meet, this will never change. The fact is that if you decided to move in together, then you must feel some connection, and one thing that you have to remember is that not all of who the other person was can be a lie.

You will soon realize that talking instead of fighting is a much better way to resolve any problems when you are married.

At Eric Conozco’s blog you will find more about marriage like the upshot of divorce. Marriage isn’t something you ought to rush into so please ensure you are understanding of the subject.

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Pt 2 of 3

These inspiring and beautiful quotes on the joy of giving are excerpted from “ONE – Sharing the joy of giving”, a book by Masami Sato. The quotes in this 2nd edition include topics that are profoundly relate to our lives, such as giving, making a difference, receiving, joy, charity and rich-poor separation.

On giving (and receiving)

“When we give more and communicate wholeheartedly, we have less insecurity-both emotionally and physically.”

“Giving love is the only way to be generously loved.”

“When we give more and communicate wholeheartedly, we have less insecurity-both emotionally and physically.”

“one key in the giving process is never to expect a return when we give.”

“we’re not here to give in order ‘to get’. We’re here to have more to give more.”

“one key in the giving process is never to expect a return when we give.”

“Giving something to others is so much easier than trying to get it first.”

“What if giving actually was as important as brushing teeth?”

“we’re not here to give in order ‘to get’. We’re here to have more to give more.”

“Because we can’t have scarcity when we are totally grateful.”

“Giving to others is actually giving to self.”

“Giving is not just about helping others. It is about sharing the joy. We do it for our own joy first and we pass it on.”

“Giving is not just about helping others. It is about sharing the joy. We do it for our own joy first and we pass it on.”

On simple joy

“So without denying the benefit of having more innovation (because it feels good), can we find the way to have more joy in our life? If we can, then we can go beyond the temporal gratification. We can create a sense of permanent certainty.”

On charity

“charity organisations are like our out-sourcing agencies for the giving of our life.”

“the moment we start giving out of guilt, we appreciate charities far less.”

“Businesses and charities are actually the same thing. Someone started the organisation with the passion to do something-to make a difference.”

On having more or having less

“The moment we perceive someone as ‘poor’, our perception creates the poor feeling in the other person.”

“The moment we believe we have more, we’re saying others have less. And OUR attitude creates separation.”

On making a difference

“Big is nothing other than a whole lot of ’smalls’. Small things can actually transform the world.