Your relationship seemed perfect: you could talk about anything, you had a lot of fun, and you never argued. Then practically overnight, your girlfriend dropped a bomb: she needs more space. And suddenly your perfect relationship is over and youre broken up.

What went wrong? The sudden break up leaves you scratching your head and wondering if you did anything wrong. If you want your girlfriend back, the first thing you need to do is let your girlfriend have the space she needs.

Your girlfriend may have a good reason to need some space, but its helpless to waste time over-thinking about the break up. When the situation is right, she will tell you the truth. Many girlfriends find they suddenly need space because of some issues with family or friends, personal insecurities, or even a fear of commitment if the relationship was moving too quickly.

Instead of worrying about your girlfriends reason for needing space, focus on saving the relationship and winning her back. Take this approach to ensure success:

Never beg your girlfriend to come back or send her sweet messages. That will just make her feel like she needs even more space. Have some dignity and play it cool.

On the other hand, dont completely ignore your girlfriend. Just because she needs space doesnt mean she wants to feel forgotten or abandoned. Send her a text message or call her every once in a while just to see how shes doing. Keep the conversations short and cheerful.

When you give her the space she needs, while showing her that you still want to save the relationship, she will start to reach out to you more. This gives you the chance to bring up good memories during your conversations and reminisce a little bit. Dont discuss negative experiences or ask her to tell you why she broke up with you. Keep it comfortable so that she can relax around you.

After some time, if your ex girlfriend is not replying to your approach, but keeps pushing you away more, you need to re-evaluate the situation. Its possible that she just really is not interested in you anymore. On the other hand, perhaps she needs more space and you should back off some more. Ideally, however, she will be expressing more interest in you and calling you more. If this is the case, you can take things to the next level and start working on improving the relationship.

In the end, if you are getting some positive signals of attraction from your ex girlfriend, open up to her. Express your feeling to her, but tell her in a simple, direct way. Dont act desperate or clingy”that will just sabotage all your hard work up to this point. And if you have read the signals back, then this will be the moment when you win your ex girlfriend back. Because you gave her the space she needed, and this will give your relationship greater strength than ever before.